Next time you’re ready to eat some unhealthy food, ask yourself the following questions:
Is this food going to help me become who I want to become, ie. fit and healthy?
Is this food going to help me achieve my vision?
Is this food going to give me the energy I need to create something beautiful today?
Do you still feel like having that food?
It works! Try it!
Do this for any bad habit that’s no longer helping you become the person you’ve decided to become.
Love, Angelos
WE CHOOSE TO SUFFER.
In each and every moment, what you’re experiencing in the realm of your emotions and mind, and the effects–to a latter degree–within the body are there because you, from your infinite freedom, have simply selected that experience to focus your attention on so you can see what the effects are.
You experience only the effects of your own choice.
From The Way of Mastery, a book suggested by my mentor and Ultimate Coach Steve Hardison.
What if you worked on your dream every day for one year without lifting your head up to see if it’s working?
But how do I know I’m doing the right thing? Well, you know what the right thing is. You have a tremendously powerful intuition as to what the good and meaningful work is. And just because you don’t lift your head up every day to see a miracle, a miracle happens when you save that energy that otherwise would go wasted on expectation!
Expectation is friction!
Expectation is interruption!
Expectation is frustration!
Think about it. Imagine. Visualise it. One year creating. No looking up.
Every day being a win no matter what! Just you and your meaningful work. No expectation. What can you see? How does it feel?
Kindness and smiles,
Angelos
How do you get yourself charged if you’ve run out of energy? We never forget to charge our mobile phones, we’re always online on Facebook and social media but… What specific steps do you take to make sure your battery is always charged?
Because, your creativity, your resourcefulness, your relationships, your family, your sexual life, the ability to think outside the box, the ability to take right decisions, and the perception of you from all the outside world depends on your battery.
So, what is your charger? How do you get charged back?
I’d love to know!
Angelos
These are some notes I sent to a client on how to stop thinking about work when you’re at home with your family, friends, etc.
1) The statement “Don’t think about work” or “Don’t check your phone” needs to be converted to a “Do this specific thing instead”. Our habit system learns a new action only when you perform an action, not when you don’t. So, focus on something very specific that you’ll do instead. Spend time with the kids is not a good one for example. Turn that to “I will read to them the book I bought yesterday, then we’ll do yoga together for 30min, we’ll do breathing together for 10min, etc.” The best thing is that activities like these get installed in their brains forever! You do your yoga, you help yourself relax (you need it anyway) and at the same time, you put the seeds of good habits in your kids’ brain early on in their lives. Remember, kids, learn only by example. They are like monkeys! And when kids go to bed, what are you going to do? Again, be very specific, read a book, create a nice atmosphere with essential oils and meditate again, etc.
2) If there are still work thoughts that keep bugging you, keep a notebook handy. Set a timer for 10min and write down everything that’s bothering you. It’s very helpful to get things that bother you outside of you. That works perfectly with thoughts that reflect anxieties rather than specific tasks that you haven’t finished yet. 😉
3) Work-free environment. Don’t just put your phone to silent mode but switch it off, put it in the closet and lock the closet in a room far away from you. You can ask your daughter to hide it and give it back to you after two hours! We once tried this with someone, his daughter fell asleep and we couldn’t find the phone until next morning, in which case, it worked even better for us! 🙂 haha
4) Another lesson from cognitive therapy. The more you stay away from work or phone and realise that this doesn’t actually hurt you (you can do it and feels good), the easier it gets to stick to the habit. The more you expose yourself to a scary situation, the less threatening the situation looks. So try to do 2 hours with your phone, then a phone-free evening, then a phone-free Sunday, etc.
Shall I introduce the book or the turtle first??? 🙂
I was reading Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman this morning when this turtle turned up to say hello! The turtle was friendly and as you see he (or she?) enjoyed the little snack I gave him.
Anyway, the book-turtle connection for myself is huge and I’ll explain to you why.
Lots of meat in these four paragraphs.
Excuse my exaggeration but these are the wisest words a human being has ever said in this world when it comes to habits:
“We often expect progress to be linear. At the very least, we hope it will come quickly. In reality, the results of our efforts are often delayed. It is not until months or years later that we realize the true value of the previous work we have done. This can result in a ‘valley of disappointment’ where people feel discouraged after putting in weeks or months of hard work without experiencing any results. However, this work was not wasted. It was simply being stored. It is not until much later that the full value of previous efforts is revealed.”