Author: angelos

January 16, 2020

6am in the morning watching again the session with my coach

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6am in the office this morning…

Watching the recorded coaching session with my own coach…

In my jacket because it was super cold when I arrived…

I watched the recorded session twice. One for information and one for transformation as I like to say.

And I may listen to it again because when you pay hundreds of dollars for an hour of coaching, you value it, you learn, and most importantly, you take action!

I spent more than 2 hours watching our session.

Three Moleskine diaries on my desk.

I took a bunch of notes. So many lessons!

I then messaged my coach to say thank you again for her time and presence during our session. For me, that’s more important than the money I paid.

And then I closed my eyes and visualised people who would benefit from these notes.

I reached out to them. Passed the love to them.

I have my clients in my thoughts between our sessions.

I bring them to my mind and I meditate on their projects.

I enjoy working along with them, even when I’m not coaching them.

I borrowed that from my coaches.

Isn’t that amazing by the way?

This is a chain of service!

My coach, myself and my clients.

Each one passing love and wisdom to each other.

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January 16, 2020

How to get what you want in life…

Coaching, Mindset

My biggest realisation on getting what you want in life.

If you want something in life, ie. a thing, it seems like universally it works out if it’s not coming from a feeling of deficit, a feeling of desperateness, or a feeling of need.

When people are NOT coming from an insecure feeling, they will often have an idea of what they want in life and they will move towards it!

They move towards it successfully when they don’t have a negative feeling or an insecure feeling.

They move towards it when it doesn’t matter one way or another.

They move towards it when the thing is just … a delight, a game, a dessert! 🍰

“Mmm… what about that? Why not? Mmm… It’s going to be fun! Ha! That’d be nice! Let’s play! “

Then you can feel it’s easy to move towards the thing because it just doesn’t matter! There is no attachment! There is no neediness!

The insecure feeling of attachment just stops acquisition! It makes the whole thing sticky, it just doesn’t happen! The whole thing just doesn’t move! There is friction. There is loss of energy. There is no room for creativity. Arrrghh!!!!

It’s easy to get what you want if you see what you want as the frosting rather than the cake!

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January 16, 2020

She is all that … and also confident.

Coaching, Mindset

She said: “I have to build my confidence. That’s what keeps me down.”

I replied: “No, it’s not. Who cares about confidence!!!”

I recently became friends with a wonderful person. I’ll call her Felicia.

She didn’t reach out to me. I reached out to her after exchanging a couple of emails through work.

And I did because I felt that person had so much value.

I wanted Felicia to be in my network (or better say, myself to be in her network!) and possibly become friends one day.

As we were chatting, Felicia told me she had recently started exploring new avenues in her life but there had always been something stopping her – her lack of confidence.

She seemed to believe that she had to do a great deal of work on building her confidence.

This is what I wrote to her and the reason I’m making my answer public is that I’ve been getting this “I lack confidence” type of thing a lot lately from the most capable, wonderful, amazing, exceptional, and worthy women.

I hope Felicia (not her real name) wouldn’t mind I’m making this public. I believe it’s my duty to share this with everyone here.

This is my reply to Felicia word by word.

My reply to Felicia

Felicia, I read your message very carefully and a few things stood out to me…

For now, I only want to focus only on one thing that’s important to me and this is probably some feedback for you from the outside world as your confidence has to do only with your inner world.

You’re saying that “it’s difficult to know you via a message or any dealing we had with work” but the fascinating thing is that I did manage to understand and feel who you really are… via 3-4 “transactional” work emails.

I did see your value as a person, your genuine commitment to serving others, your kindness and your worth!

And that’s why I rushed to find you here on FB because I thought… this person has WORTH, I should connect with Felicia! And not just connect but really get to know Felicia! That’s why I messaged you right after you accepted my friend request.

As you said, confidence goes up and down and I don’t think that you will ever get to a point when you’ll always feel confident.

So, if confidence is a volatile asset, why don’t you invest into who you really are, and see that investment grow as you navigate life?

Because I know you will always be kind and helpful to others, professional, caring and all these good things that you are. That’s the most valuable asset you have and will never change!

And if one day someone says: “Ohh Felicia is all that but she lacks confidence”, I’d say “That’s a psychopath!!! Felicia, please stay away from them!”

And if you said to me, I like all that, Angelos, it makes sense, but I still want to show up “confident”…

Well, when you stop thinking too much about that confidence thing… you end up showing more confident… if that’s what you want, if that matters…

Felicia, I think you’re focusing too much on this confidence thing, it’s not real, to be honest, you have immense value and I don’t have to put you under a microscope to confirm that.

It’s just fine being you, and if you’re YOU, you’re also confident… but who cares?

You don’t have to prove your confidence to anyone… including yourself.

You appeared very confident to me by the way! And you’re sharing your “lack of confidence” with me, someone you barely know. That’s really “confident” of yours, Felicia!

But still… I never thought I had to measure your confidence… I only wanted to connect with you because of who you were, not how confident you were.

I don’t think there is much work that needs to be done here with you! What do you think?

Why don’t you turn your focus on what you want to do in your life rather than creating an inexistent problem and then trying to fix it?

As a coach, I’d refuse to work with you on building your confidence! Haha!

I’d say, OK, Felicia, is there anything else here? What do you want to create today?

Let’s have fun, let’s create something beautiful today and at the end of the day, I guarantee you’ll certainly feel fulfilled, happy, accomplished and … oh yes, that one too… confident!

But who cares… at the end of the day, you wouldn’t care either…

~ To all women who became confident by being them and are now on a mission to empower other women to do so.

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January 16, 2020

Moving towards happiness VS Running away from unhappiness

Coaching, Mindset

My Client: Angelos, my goal is to lose weight.

Me: No, your goal is not to lose weight. As far as I know you, your goal here is to be fit, eat healthy, fresh, delicious food, feel good, more energised, stronger, happier. What are you going to do then?

My Client: I’ll do 100 squats today, I’ll go running tomorrow, I’ll get some healthy stuff and put them in the fridge for when I feel like having a snack! Yea… I now get what you mean! I’m excited!

I’m always here to remind my people that we’re not running away from anything. We’re not fixing anything here. We’re not solving problems.

We’re not running away from excessive weight, drinking, a boss who’s driving us nuts, a job we hate.

Working on fixing a problem blocks your creativity. It makes you go round something that needs to be fixed. Something that shouldn’t be there in the first place. Until it’s fixed, you are frustrated!

❎ OK, I’ve fixed myself now! I can go on with my life and start creating again, right?

✅ – I have created something amazing in my life. It feels wonderful! – Oh really? But you had some issue that you wanted to fix, no? – What issue? What do you mean?

In this group, we are CREATORS. We’re creating something that’s 100 times bigger, more exciting, more valuable than just solving a problem or “fixing” ourselves.

What we’re moving towards is so big that will exterminate all the “problems” we thought we had to fix. If there’s something bothering us, it will disappear because of what we will create!

My goal is to help 100 people create the impossible this year, craft their dream career, build a business, create what they’ve always been postponing, something beautiful for themselves and the world!

I’m moving towards that vision every single day! This vision is driving me like anything else! My “self” is not there in that vision! The more I lose myself in the service of my people, the more I find myself! Remember the quote by Mahatma Gandhi?

I do have a personal goal too. Yes, I do. I want to build a big beautiful house near the sea. And then invite all those 100 people to my house, to hug each one of them for a few seconds, to celebrate with them, to swim with them, to have dinner together, to sing and play the guitar on the beach around the fire.

My dear friends, what do you want to move towards?

With fierce loving,
Angelos

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January 16, 2020

You can create a business in one week

Business, The best time is NOW

You can have a business up and running by the end of this week.

You can build a business and start getting paid by the end of this week, Friday 29th of November 2019.

I’m serious!

It doesn’t have to take months or years.

There is a business inside you that’s dormant right now.

It’s waiting for you to flip the open/closed sign and tell everyone that you’re open.

People are waiting out there for you to open the doors, give them what they want so they pay you!

This week I mean. This month. Next month. In 2019 – not in 2020!

They are waiting to pay someone like you, but the problem is you’re closed!

You can open your business today, invite people to your business and get paid tomorrow.

People are waiting for you to open!

This is what happened today in my office.

I had a coaching session with someone in this group.

A wonderful, super-knowledgeable and super-kind guy who’s into massage, relaxation, breathing, meditation, mindfulness, and all this goodness.

What he wants is to do less of the massage and be able to operate online and help people with all skills while being mobile and flexible.

When we first met he thought he needed to figure out his niche, target audience, etc. There was too much thinking and little doing.

He wasn’t sure about how to get started, what to do, how to do it, whether it would work, etc. Thinking, thinking, thinking…

And I understand him totally because everyone is like that including me. I still overthink but I used to overthink a lot more!!!

… Until my coaches said: “OK, what do you want to do this week, who do you want to connect with this week, who can you help this week, what do you want to do THIS WEEK, TODAY, NOW”

They asked: “What do you want DO, not THINK”

Back to my wonderful friend.

I said to him: “Let’s do it now. You will do it now. For the next 15 min, I’m not your coach. I’m your client.

“I’m gonna shut up and do whatever you tell me to do. You teach me relaxation, breathing, whatever.

All I want is you to help me feel better, more relaxed, more energised.

I’m your client. I have paid you. We’re having a session now. Open your toolkit and deliver. Now.”

For 10 seconds, I could see the “Oops, what I’m supposed to do?” on his face.

But that lasted only 10 seconds.

Then, he started creating. He started painting!

His voice changed, his face changed, he lightened up!

“Inhale, hold for 1-2-3-4, exhale, hold for 1-2-3-4.”

“Lie on your back, put your hand on your belly, breathe, relax your shoulders, repeat!”

There was no more thinking going on in his head. He lost himself in the next 15 min. He lost himself in the service of another human being.

I loved it! He loved it!

He hadn’t rehearsed anything. He delivered 100%. It was amazing.

That was our coaching session. The best coaching session we’ve ever had!

I challenged him to invite 10 to experience what I did.

And he will.

I’m sure this guy can help people and because of that, he will get paid.

Do you think I was always like that? HA HA!

They did it to me that’s why I’m doing it to my people now every single day!

And it works! And amazing things happen! We have fun!

I love it when they call me “crazy”!

And they love it when they become “crazy”!

I’ve got a ton of stories like that one.

We did something similar with Sabrina last week. She will tell you about it soon.

We did it with Brittney a couple of weeks ago.

The best time is NOW!

If you are here in this group, you’ll be fine because I will always be here to remind you!

Because I want to achieve my vision. 🙂

100 people in 2020 creating the impossible!

With fierce loving,

Angelos

PS: Here I am, that was my first coaching session on a yoga mat! 🙂

Thank you, my friend. If you want, you can tell everyone here about yourself. Because they will want to have a breathing session with you!

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January 16, 2020

🔥 Cold-call strategy??? 📞

Business

Somebody asked me if I had a cold-call strategy.

Although I don’t cold call people, I spend most of my day being on a call with people.

And I believe that cold-calling can be as effective as any other way of getting clients provided that someone has a genuine intention to serve the person they call.

So this is my strategy:

1) Understand the person as much as you can before calling them

2) Call them

3) Tell them you might be able to help if they answered a couple of questions for you

4) Ask the questions

5) Listen carefully (Forget what you want and listen to what THEY want)

6) Ask deeper questions

7) Listen carefully again

8) Serve if you can

9) If you can’t help, tell them you appreciate the time they gave you and wish them good

10) Move to the next

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January 16, 2020

16 Questions which will help you come up with a business idea

Business, Entrepreneurship

Question: I want to build a business but WHAT business? 🤨

Here are 16 questions that will help you to come up with “something” that will give value to people’s lives and … money to you!

My advice is: Don’t start a business just to make money!

The money will not be enough to motivate you.

I failed ALL the times when I pursued an idea just for the money.

Do you know what motivates people? A purpose higher than themselves, appreciation from others, impact, something that matters, something that will stay, curiosity, genuine interest in a subject, the fun of the creation process!

Forget the “million bucks” ideas and slow down for a bit.

Make yourself a cup of tea. 🍵

Get a notebook and a pen and ask yourself: Can you think of …..

Something you’re passionate about?
Something that’s interesting to you?
Something you want to explore more in your life?
Something you want to learn more about even if you’re not an expert at?
Something you’re curious about?
Something you can help people with?
Something you can teach people?
Something that has made your life easier that could also make other people’s lives easier?
Something that could make your life easier that could also make other people’s lives easier?
Something, a thing that would be nice to have?
Something you’ve found the solution to that you’re now ready to share with the world?
Something you’re “dying” to solve for yourself first?
Something that you find easy but others don’t?
Something tough you went through that others are going through now?
Something that’s worth pursuing no matter how impossible it might sound?
Something that could change the world?

If you slow down and see what has worked for you in your life, you will come up with ideas.

The questions above will tap into your abundantly creative mind.

Don’t listen to others, don’t Google “passive income”. Start with paper and pen. Start with fresh, new thought!

And the most powerful question:

If you had a few people in a room and a few hours before you left this world forever, what would you teach them from your life and experiences? What would you like to leave behind for them?

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January 16, 2020

Making everything to work in your favour

Coaching, Mindset

Robert used to have a successful Internet business.

But because of his drinking addiction 🍷, his business went down. He almost lost all his clients.

After two years of constant struggle, Robert managed to win the battle against alcohol.

But the problem now is that he needs to start all over again and find new clients for his business.

At least this is what he thought.

This is what I wrote to him: “Why don’t you contact those clients that you think ‘you’ve lost forever’ because of your addiction?

I’d be honest with them, share my story and ask for a second chance. I would give them the whole truth about myself as if they were my best friends.

I wouldn’t be surprised if they started asking you about how you managed to go sober rather than the work you do! You may be able to help them too!

A few days later Robert closed $2.5K in business from those old contact he thought he had “lost forever”. ☺️

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January 16, 2020

Getting creative and loving the unlovable!

Coaching, Mindset

What if you learned to love the things that you always thought were unlovable?

Just got off the phone with a very successful and capable advocate lawyer.

She said to me this profession is not easy. I’m sure it’s not!

She also said that the law she practices in her country is based on counterarguments.

Her work is all about defending her clients against any counterargument that the opposition will come up with.

That sounds stressful at first sight, doesn’t it?

You want to protect your clients and yourself against these counterarguments.

An advocate’s success, reputation, and career all seem to be perfectly correlated with fighting back counterarguments.

But, think about it.

What if one managed to love a counterargument when they were served one?

What if one saw the counterargument as a way to come up with a creative counterargument themselves?

What if a counterargument were always the way to the truth and a healthy system of justice?

What if one got inspired and loved the person who comes up with a strong counterargument?

We stayed a little longer at that last question.

Can someone “love” the advocate of the opposition?

My knowledge in law is so little. Excuse me for my ignorance and, please, if you know more help me see clearly.

The person who comes up with a counterargument is another person who’s trying to do their job as well as they can. They are like you!

But the more I’m thinking about it, the more I feel this goes further than law!

When you get to love the counterarguments of the opposition, you get to love the game, you’re in flow, you’re in love with the process.

There is no ego, there is no expectation.

This is the question that comes to mind now:

Can you get inspired by what you thought was your enemy?

Tell me what you hear.

With love,

Angelos

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January 16, 2020

My favourite Quote by Viktor Frankl

Quotes

This is my #1 quote.

Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.

Viktor Frankl (From the Book Man’s Search for Meaning)

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